Tabitha asked me to write about balance, and that’s something that I’ve found very challenging this past year.
I first started realizing I was totally OUT of balance around summer last year. I had taken on too many things and my writing was suffering—not good! Especially since I was under contract!
But God always provides, doesn’t He? I had a planned vacation to visit my friend Sharon Hinck (she’s an awesome writer—her RESTORER series is way cool and I helped critique her latest release, SYMPHONY OF SECRETS).
Anyway, Minnesota was supposed to have nice weather—oh, except for the thunderstorms that took out power for 6 of the 8 days I was there!
It was actually a blessing in disguise. I couldn’t do much work because the power was out, and so Sharon and I took lots of walks and did a lot of chatting and card-making.
One thing that struck home was that I needed to reestablish balance in my life. I was going crazy. I needed to stop and center myself.
When I went home, I created a Tranquility Corner for myself—a small place in my office with my favorite things in it, so that I could have a central place of good thoughts and tranquil vibes.
During walks with Sharon, I realized that the sound of running water has always soothed me, so I found a small tabletop water fountain to give me the sound of running water. I also put my aromatherapy diffuser there with eucalyptus (for my sinuses) and French lavender (since I grow it and like it). I also put the requisite bowl of M&Ms.
You can see a picture here:
http://camys-loft.blogspot.com/2007/11/new-tranquility-corner.html
I also went through my email and YahooGroups and dropped out of any groups I didn’t read anymore. I unsubscribed from any newsletters that weren’t important to my writing or family life.
I also created a separate email address for non-urgent, non-writing business, which I only check once a day—no more! It made my business email address much less busy, and the fewer emails I got reduced my stress levels.
I also learned to say NO—this was the hardest thing for me. But I started using my iCal calendar program on my computer to schedule everything I had to do, and it made me more aware of how much I was doing.
When my schedule got full, I started telling people no—“No, I’m sorry, I can’t take on any more critiquing jobs through my Story Sensei service at this time because I’m booked through such and such date.” “No, I’m sorry, I can’t volunteer for that church project because I’m already busy with youth group work.” “No, I’m sorry, I can’t judge for that contest because I’m already committed to running the ACFW Genesis contest.”
People were much more understanding about it than I expected them to be!
Now, I work hard to protect my time—my creative writing time, my family time, my time with God. I don’t want to get to that point I was at before where I had so much to do that my brain SHUT DOWN like an overloaded computer.
I hope this helps anybody else who might feel overwhelmed. It’s not a good state to be in, and you need to make the effort to get yourself out of it!
Camy Tang is the loud Asian chick who writes loud Asian chick lit. She used to be a biologist, but now she is a staff worker for her church youth group and leads a worship team for Sunday service. She also runs the Story Sensei fiction critique service. On her blog, she gives away Christian novels every Monday and Thursday, and she ponders frivolous things like dumb dogs (namely, hers), coffee-geek husbands (no resemblance to her own…), the writing journey, Asiana, and anything else that comes to mind. Visit her website at http://www.camytang.com/ for a huge website contest going on right now, giving away five boxes of books and 25 copies of her latest release, ONLY UNI.
Tab here: I have to say that Only Uni (The Sushi Series, Book 2)
is my favorite book by Camy Tang…so far. Trish is definitely one girl I can relate to. Oh wait. At times I thought she was me. I have gone through some of the same issues that Trish goes through. Especially in the area of men. I too at one time had to keep telling myself to quit looking and devote myself wholly to God. The similarities were hilarious but also sad because it is an issue that not only I face. Trish’s character is one that I see walking around all the time. I can think of several women who are living Trish’s story. Only Uni (The Sushi Series, Book 2)
is not only a good read but has a potent message hidden within it.